Life

2 truths & a lie about finding your spouse

When you pastor a church that has a huge number of twenty-somethings, almost every month you get asked the question: “How do I know if he/she is ‘the One?’” Well, before I dive into the specific details, I want to make sure that the foundations of your marital worldview are solid. To be specific, it’s critical…
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The “Happiness Switch” – Why God Purposefully “Flips it Off” for Some of Us!

Strangely, the Bible suggests that God actually has a “happiness switch” that he can turn on and off in our lives. One of the wealthiest men who’s ever walked the planet said: “God gives some people wealth, possessions and honor, so that they lack nothing their hearts desire, but God does not grant them the…
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Surviving the Fall Rat Race: How to Keep Your Family Sane in Back to School Season!

By popular demand, I wanted to repost a prior blog on how to survive the Fall Rat-Race! As I sat outside my kid’s school last week, it was amazing to see all of the parents scurry here and there.  Everyone looked exhausted… like I was watching the finish line of a super-marathon.  Kids fumbled in…
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The 10 Myths of Promotion & Happiness: Which of these do You Believe? You’ll Never Make Decisions the same!

Did you know, research shows that only “10% of happiness is based on circumstantial things like, income, marital status, jobs, good looks, or geographical location!” Wealth, jobs, cars and great looks do not affect happiness as much as we’d like to imagine. In fact, wealth actually decreases a person’s happiness above a certain point. Or,…
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Can God “Bless Pizza to our Bodies” and Other Life-changing Questions about Prayer:

Table Prayers are funny things – especially in my house, where chaos is never far away. But have you ever wondered, why do millions of Christians pray: “bless this food to our bodies; and, bless the hands that prepared this?” First off: Why do we only “bless their hands?” Why not bless their bank account,…
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The keys to seeing the miraculous unfold in your life: a new approach to prayer

I love the story where the disciples were trying to cast out a demon but weren’t able to. As a result, the disciples were having a squabble with the teachers of the Law. Jesus, just coming off a prayer retreat, walks onto the scene and immediately casts the demon out. A bit confused, the disciples…
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Pizza problems, the truth about truth, and the Biblical path to change

If you had to choose between truth or happiness, which would you prefer? A recent study at the University of Texas asked this question. Interestingly, 58 percent chose happiness and 42 percent, truth. I.e., the majority of people would rather be blissfully ignorant and happy. And honestly, I can relate to this. For years, my…
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Dog statues and Jerry Springer: What I’ve learned about Godly conflict

I used to live on a street where people loved to call the police for everything. If someone forgot to grab a bag of leaves from their front lawn, it suddenly became a public safety hazard. I like to think of myself as being a great neighbor. Yet, I’ve had my share of municipal violations—usually…
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How to: restore friendships, fall in love, and like frustrating people [crazy research!]

The Bible says that the “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit” (Prov. 18:21).  Interestingly, certain studies have proved this to be true when it comes to love and romance. In the October 2011 issue of the Journal of Experimental Psychology: Animal Behavior Processes, it explained…
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Confessions of a White Male Pastor – I Haven’t Talked Enough About Racism

After Ferguson, Baltimore, and Charleston… I can’t take it anymore. I feel like I have to say something, and it’s this: it’s time for white pastors to talk about racial discrimination. People pretend that discrimination doesn’t exist anymore. I’ve heard numerous people say, “We have a black president, so clearly discrimination doesn’t exist.” However, this…
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