Marriage
Marriage Resource Page:
Welcome to my marriage resource page! Over the years, Carolyn and I have done a lot of blogs and teachings on marriage (and how to fall back in love with your spouse in every season)! So, we’re starting to scrap them all together into a singular page of resources! Below you’ll find multiple blogs and messages on everything from dating, to vacations, to fighting well!
SERMONS AND VIDEO CONTENT:
2024-02(Feb)4 “A God-First Lifestyle” (Part One in the Series, First Comes Love) All marriages will experience conflict. This can be quite disconcerting for a lot of young couples because they fail to understand that all intimacy comes through conflict. And rather than pushing forward through conflict many people simply partner swap, as if this will spare them from future pain. But God has a better plan for all of our relationships. Whether you are single or married, get ready to renew your minds. (Mt. 22:37ff; Joshua 1:8; Heb.10:25; Eph 5:18-20)
2024-02(Feb)11 “The Focus Principle” (Part 2 in the Series, First Comes Love) After a well fascinating history lesson on the history of Valentine’s Day, pastor Peter unpacks various scriptures showing God’s plan for “stewarding our attractions.” Using both scriptures and science, get ready to understand why feelings always follow focus. Great relationships are not found through perfect compatibility but rather perfect focus. (Prov 4:23; Mt. 6:21; Genesis 2:24).
2024-02(Feb)18 “Deal with Your Awkward” (Part 3 in the Series, First Comes Love) – all of us have areas of our lives where we’ve become awkward but don’t realize it. We actually normalize our dysfunctions because we can’t step outside of ourselves to see certain things. Naturally, this creates an unsustainable burden that will sabotage us when it comes to marriage, dating and parenting. It’s OK to have “awkward,” but it’s not OK to live in denial of it and make everyone shoulder the burden of it. (Mt. 6:21-24; Php 2:13)
2024-02(Feb)25 Careers & Kids First Comes Love Pt 4 We live in a world where it’s “normal” to dysfunctionally prioritize kids and careers over health. The majority of people who do this would never see themselves as unhealthy. But as pastors Peter and Carolyn Haas unpack multiple scriptures and research studies, prepare to rethink how marriage and parenting actually works. (Mt. 6:21)
2024-03(Mar)10 “Speaking Life” (First Comes Love Pt 5) In all relationships, if we fail to deal with small problems they become big problems. Pastors Peter and Carolyn talk about many of the habits that sabotage long term intimate relationships. Many people abuse Bible passages in order to avoid becoming mature. After hitting a few abused passages of scripture, Pastors Peter & Carolyn suggest some practical tips to help relationships get out of the ditch. (Isa. 58:9-10; Ephesians 5:22-33)
BLOGS:
How to Fight like Heaven: Most couples were never taught “how to fight.” Yet, there are dozens of fighting habits that lasting marriages employ. These skills enable couple to have better sex, better peace, and better unity. So, find out how many unhealthy fighting habits you have – from when to fight, to addressing hopeless situations, get ready for a half-dozen resources that will transform your ability to resolve conflict.
How Vacations can save your Marriage (and your Kids)! How long has it been since you vacationed apart from your young kids? Many young couples say: “We can’t afford to do that?” But experience has shown me, you can’t afford to NOT take vacations apart from kids. But how can we make it work?
Finances are one of the top stressors of Marriages: Here’s several blogs and teachings that will destress your marriage. When we fail to get in unity with our spouses about our financial plans, it results in all sorts of unnecessary pain. So here are a few habits that can fundamentally shift both your wealth and ability to stay in love.
Save Your Marriage through Personality Analysis! Did you know that Personality tests like the MBTI and Enneagram can radically alter your marriage? When you get an accurate test done, you can actually statistically predict many of your top fights! Stop wasting time trying to “think alike” when you can simply “think together.”
Forced Gratitude: How to save your Marriage by doing “Thanksgiving Meditations” (a.k.a., Love Letters) – Its easy to obsess over your spouses weaknesses over time. Indeed, the average person dwells on irritating things more than positive things by a factor of six! So, if we don’t have the disciplines of gratitude in our marriages, they will certainly suffer.
Peter Haas – Lead Pastor of Substance Church – an international multisite church based in Minneapolis. Peter writes comedy books on spirituality: “Pharisectomy: How to Remove Your Inner Pharisee and Other Religiously Transmitted Diseases”(2012) and Broken Escalators (2015). See www.SubstanceChurch.com – @peterhaas1 (twitter & instagram). He is also a dj-turntablist who produces & tours with Substance Variant. Click to visit one of Substance’s Church live services, or see our documentary film-style services on Youtube. To watch our worship videos, see Substance Input Output.
