Dating

Over the years, a lot of parents have asked me: “How does dating work in the Haas house?” Ie. What are your rules? What are your requirements? Keep in mind: My kids are a work in progress. I hesitate to even write some of these ideas down because, some day I may look back and…

Over the last year, we’ve heard a lot about the “Me Too” movement. I’ve honestly LOVED the national conversation on it — mainly because we been avoiding the topic of sexual brokenness for too long. Indeed, we live in a culture that has essentially said: “There’s no such thing as sexually broken. Indeed, that’s ‘who…

As many of you know, Substance has had thousands of college students come through our community at some point. In fact, many of our best leaders were going to college when they first found Substance. But as many of these same students entered the “real world” I’ve heard them voice a lot of regrets. Over…

When you pastor a church that has a huge number of twenty-somethings, almost every month you get asked the question: “How do I know if he/she is ‘the One?’” Well, before I dive into the specific details, I want to make sure that the foundations of your marital worldview are solid. To be specific, it’s critical…

I can admit that Substance is a strange church. When close to 70% of your attendees are under 35 years old, it results in a lot of trendiness. Every once in a while, someone will ask me the question: “At what point is your church overly hipster?” (as if we are intentionally advocating for this).…

Every time my wife and I go to a wedding, we always chuckle a bit watching all the single people frolic to and fro.  Actually, chuckle isn’t the word.  We laugh and shout, “Suckas!” and think smugly: “Man, it’s great to be done with that season of our lives.” Don’t get me wrong:  Young love…

One of the most comprehensive and methodically sound sex studies ever done found that consistent church attendees have a significantly higher frequency and intensity of orgasms than the general population of the U.S.[i] Even more exciting, women who attend church more than once a week experience even bigger, (cough), …you know what I mean. But…

Over the last year, we’ve all been inundated with commercials for the Twilight movie trilogy. In some ways, it almost feels impossible to talk about dating without talking about Twilight (or at least making fun of it). So, for fun, I thought it might be helpful to answer the question: “What do I do if I’m…