Dating

Address the Mess – God’s Plan for Sexual Brokenness

In the last year, we’ve heard a lot about the “Me Too” movement. And to be honest, I’ve honestly LOVED the national conversation. After all, it’s the first time in years that our culture has started talking about America’s out of control rape-culture. Don’t get me wrong, it’s actually quite irritating and disheartening when a  topic like…
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The Top Regrets of College Students – Part 1

As many of you know, Substance has had thousands of college students come through our community at some point. In fact, many of our best leaders were going to college when they first found Substance. But as many of these same students entered the “real world” I’ve heard them voice a lot of regrets. Over…
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2 truths & a lie about finding your spouse

When you pastor a church that has a huge number of twenty-somethings, almost every month you get asked the question: “How do I know if he/she is ‘the One?’” Well, before I dive into the specific details, I want to make sure that the foundations of your marital worldview are solid. To be specific, it’s critical…
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12 signs that your church is overly hipster…

I can admit that Substance is a strange church. When close to 70% of your attendees are under 35 years old, it results in a lot of trendiness. Every once in a while, someone will ask me the question: “At what point is your church overly hipster?” (as if we are intentionally advocating for this).…
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Dating Without Dying (Pt.1 of 3) – Solid Tips for Christians who are Starting to Date

Every time my wife and I go to a wedding, we always chuckle a bit watching all the single people frolic to and fro.  Actually, chuckle isn’t the word.  We laugh and shout, “Suckas!” and think smugly: “Man, it’s great to be done with that season of our lives.” Don’t get me wrong:  Young love…
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Why Church Attendees have the Best Sex of Any Demographic in the U.S.

One of the most comprehensive and methodically sound sex studies ever done found that consistent church attendees have a significantly higher frequency and intensity of orgasms than the general population of the U.S.[i] Even more exciting, women who attend church more than once a week experience even bigger, (cough), …you know what I mean. But…
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Dating without Dying (Pt 3 of 3) – Help, I’m dating a Vampire (or Werewolf)!

Over the last year, we’ve all been inundated with commercials for the Twilight movie trilogy. In some ways, it almost feels impossible to talk about dating without talking about Twilight (or at least making fun of it). So, for fun, I thought it might be helpful to answer the question: “What do I do if I’m…
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So How Does he Pick his Messages?

  Every month I ask my staff:  What are people dealing with the most?  What are the issues that are obstructing our church member’s abilities to experience and know God.  Of course, this is a tough question for me to ask… after all, if the sermons were up to me (& not God), I’d have…
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