life

How to Share Tough Truths with Others, and Have them Love It!

Have you ever wondered why some people can say “difficult” things and people receive it, while others simply open their mouths and people freak out? Over the years, I’ve noticed that two different people can share the exact same truth to another person; yet, to the one people respond with anger and rebellion and to…
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3 Tips to Help New Dads through the First 4 Months of Fatherhood…

Very few things are as euphoric as having your own kid. To be honest, I was kind of a “baby hater” until I had kids of my own. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not like I “punched them” or anything… It’s just that I never thought they were cute… And I never wanted to hold…
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The Punishment of Generosity: Why People Secretly hate Mother Teresa

We love to hate healthy people, don’t we? Whenever my wife judiciously orders a salad at a restaurant, it reminds me that my triple-patty bacon burger is a heart-attack waiting to happen. And studies show that the same is true with generosity… yet, we rarely admit it. It’s no secret that most people hate greed.…
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Raise healthy kids AND enjoy the beach: one simple way to revolutionize your marriage!

Being a parent with young kids can be one of the most chaotic seasons of life. And if that’s you right now, don’t give up! It only gets better. To make things even more difficult for my wife and I, we made the decision to plant a church (while having 3 kids under the age…
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12 signs that your church is overly hipster…

I can admit that Substance is a strange church. When close to 70% of your attendees are under 35 years old, it results in a lot of trendiness. Every once in a while, someone will ask me the question: “At what point is your church overly hipster?” (as if we are intentionally advocating for this).…
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The keys to seeing the miraculous unfold in your life: a new approach to prayer

I love the story where the disciples were trying to cast out a demon but weren’t able to. As a result, the disciples were having a squabble with the teachers of the Law. Jesus, just coming off a prayer retreat, walks onto the scene and immediately casts the demon out. A bit confused, the disciples…
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Pizza problems, the truth about truth, and the Biblical path to change

If you had to choose between truth or happiness, which would you prefer? A recent study at the University of Texas asked this question. Interestingly, 58 percent chose happiness and 42 percent, truth. I.e., the majority of people would rather be blissfully ignorant and happy. And honestly, I can relate to this. For years, my…
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How to: restore friendships, fall in love, and like frustrating people [crazy research!]

The Bible says that the “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit” (Prov. 18:21).  Interestingly, certain studies have proved this to be true when it comes to love and romance. In the October 2011 issue of the Journal of Experimental Psychology: Animal Behavior Processes, it explained…
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5 Ways to get more freedom & responsbility from your boss!

We all want our jobs to get better. And according to research, autonomy (the ability to govern oneself) is one of the higher predictors of job satisfaction – especially in creative or problem solving jobs. When people have more control over their schedules, deadlines and work-hours, it can have a significant affect on your stress.…
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