Marriage

Address the Mess – God’s Plan for Sexual Brokenness

In the last year, we’ve heard a lot about the “Me Too” movement. And to be honest, I’ve honestly LOVED the national conversation. After all, it’s the first time in years that our culture has started talking about America’s out of control rape-culture. Don’t get me wrong, it’s actually quite irritating and disheartening when a  topic like…
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Thoughts on Marriage on My 20th Anniversary!

I married Carolyn 20 years ago today. It almost doesn’t seem real. When I think about how blessed we are compared to most people, I almost feel a little sad. Our culture is robbed by the toxic idea that marriage can fill our God-shaped voids. To many, marriage has been reduced to a ‘right’…a tool…
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2 truths & a lie about finding your spouse

When you pastor a church that has a huge number of twenty-somethings, almost every month you get asked the question: “How do I know if he/she is ‘the One?’” Well, before I dive into the specific details, I want to make sure that the foundations of your marital worldview are solid. To be specific, it’s critical…
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Surviving the Fall Rat Race: How to Keep Your Family Sane in Back to School Season!

By popular demand, I wanted to repost a prior blog on how to survive the Fall Rat-Race! As I sat outside my kid’s school last week, it was amazing to see all of the parents scurry here and there.  Everyone looked exhausted… like I was watching the finish line of a super-marathon.  Kids fumbled in…
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Raise healthy kids AND enjoy the beach: one simple way to revolutionize your marriage!

Being a parent with young kids can be one of the most chaotic seasons of life. And if that’s you right now, don’t give up! It only gets better. To make things even more difficult for my wife and I, we made the decision to plant a church (while having 3 kids under the age…
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Dog statues and Jerry Springer: What I’ve learned about Godly conflict

I used to live on a street where people loved to call the police for everything. If someone forgot to grab a bag of leaves from their front lawn, it suddenly became a public safety hazard. I like to think of myself as being a great neighbor. Yet, I’ve had my share of municipal violations—usually…
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Fix Me: Dealing with Sexual Brokenness

All of us have sexual brokenness. The question remains: How do we deal with it? Thankfully, we serve a God of redemption. Our church is filled with people from every imaginable background who’ve been restored to a lifestyle of joy. Indeed, repentance is actually a joyful process – the gateway to “refreshment” (Acts 3:19). Unfortunately,…
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Dating Without Dying (Pt.1 of 3) – Solid Tips for Christians who are Starting to Date

Every time my wife and I go to a wedding, we always chuckle a bit watching all the single people frolic to and fro.  Actually, chuckle isn’t the word.  We laugh and shout, “Suckas!” and think smugly: “Man, it’s great to be done with that season of our lives.” Don’t get me wrong:  Young love…
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Crazy Research on How to Fall Back in Love (Or stop hating someone)

The Bible says that the “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit” (Prov. 18:21).  Interestingly, certain studies have proved this to be true when it comes to love and romance. In the October 2011 issue of the Journal of Experimental Psychology: Animal Behavior Processes, it explained…
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So How Does he Pick his Messages?

  Every month I ask my staff:  What are people dealing with the most?  What are the issues that are obstructing our church member’s abilities to experience and know God.  Of course, this is a tough question for me to ask… after all, if the sermons were up to me (& not God), I’d have…
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