Sex

Address the Mess – God’s Plan for Sexual Brokenness

In the last year, we’ve heard a lot about the “Me Too” movement. And to be honest, I’ve honestly LOVED the national conversation. After all, it’s the first time in years that our culture has started talking about America’s out of control rape-culture. Don’t get me wrong, it’s actually quite irritating and disheartening when a  topic like…
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3 Tips to Help New Dads through the First 4 Months of Fatherhood…

Very few things are as euphoric as having your own kid. To be honest, I was kind of a “baby hater” until I had kids of my own. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not like I “punched them” or anything… It’s just that I never thought they were cute… And I never wanted to hold…
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2 truths & a lie about finding your spouse

When you pastor a church that has a huge number of twenty-somethings, almost every month you get asked the question: “How do I know if he/she is ‘the One?’” Well, before I dive into the specific details, I want to make sure that the foundations of your marital worldview are solid. To be specific, it’s critical…
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Pizza problems, the truth about truth, and the Biblical path to change

If you had to choose between truth or happiness, which would you prefer? A recent study at the University of Texas asked this question. Interestingly, 58 percent chose happiness and 42 percent, truth. I.e., the majority of people would rather be blissfully ignorant and happy. And honestly, I can relate to this. For years, my…
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Fix Me: Dealing with Sexual Brokenness

All of us have sexual brokenness. The question remains: How do we deal with it? Thankfully, we serve a God of redemption. Our church is filled with people from every imaginable background who’ve been restored to a lifestyle of joy. Indeed, repentance is actually a joyful process – the gateway to “refreshment” (Acts 3:19). Unfortunately,…
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Dating Without Dying (Pt.1 of 3) – Solid Tips for Christians who are Starting to Date

Every time my wife and I go to a wedding, we always chuckle a bit watching all the single people frolic to and fro.  Actually, chuckle isn’t the word.  We laugh and shout, “Suckas!” and think smugly: “Man, it’s great to be done with that season of our lives.” Don’t get me wrong:  Young love…
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Fifty Shades of Truth: Shocking Research Facts about Sex & Porn

With the movie, “Fifty Shades of Grey” coming out, people are starting to talk about topics of sexuality more. It seems like almost every magazine in my local grocery store is doing a featured article on how “sex-whips” and porn can increase your sexual satisfaction. Unfortunately, none of this syncs with the research on sexual fulfillment.…
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The Jaw Dropping Benefits of Church Attendance

In my book Pharisectomy, I put a lot of random research about the church. People were riveted by my statements on how church attendance affects life expectancy; but, that was just the tip of the ice-berg. So, if you needed more motivation to search for that awesome church in your region, here’s five reasons:  5 Statistical benefits…
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What Hell & Sex have in Common – Thoughts on Tough Questions

I’m always trying to find a way to make talking about hell easier (hence the catchy blog title : )  But talking about hell is a lot like talking about sex.  Immature married couples find it hard to share how they really feel with their spouse – when they’re unsatisfied or when things simply aren’t…
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