Many years ago, I found myself in what felt like an impossible leadership situation. Almost ALL of my problems came down to one insecure leader, and, if I can be honest, it made me really want to quit. It seemed like I did everything I could to solve it, and nothing was working. So, one day, I was whining to God about it, and I felt like He told me to write up a list of ways I could approach this person & this situation. And out of that list came a servanthood strategy: model the change I wanted to see in this person. Through this strategy, I came up with a list of 17 ways I could influence this seemingly hopeless situation. This list is called The Traffic Light of Influence.
You see, there are three categories for these 17 options: red, yellow, and green- just like a stoplight. The green category is filled with inspirational ways to influence. Yellow has crisis modes of influence, and red has collateral (aka non-influential) modes of influence.
The reason this is profound and significant is because we live in a culture that automatically turns to “red light” forms of influence as its default. Rather than the red being the last resort, it is the starting point. And inevitably, we end up transmitting pain rather than transforming it, and antagonizing rather than influencing!
We all gravitate towards one or two modes of influence in our lives, and the devil exploits these modes and makes us feel hopeless. But, if we can praise through our pain and look for purpose through our pain, we can change our mode of influence. God’s not done with us yet!